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The Cognitive Science of Love
- December 14, 2019
- Posted by: admin
- Category: Blog
Each of the three major parts of the brain has a different role in relationships. There are three secrets associated with the three parts of the brain to unlock true love — sexual, emotional, and intellectual attraction and love.
The human brain has three general parts that essentially work independently of one another. Practically speaking, each of us has not one but three separately functioning brains in our head:
Reptilian brain – brain stem and hypothalamus – focuses on instincts and homeostasis, uncontrollable impulses and drives that are responsible for survival, the seat of sexual attraction or lust
Mammalian brain – midbrain and cerebellum – emotional attraction, forming friendships, placing value on ideas or people, and the location of love
Higher brain – the cortex – intellectual attraction, communication of ideas and respect for rights, beliefs, values, goals and preferences, unique identity. Logic, creativity, memory storage.
The secret of successful relationships is satisfying the needs of each brain through the right stages in the right order:
Every great relationship has a story attached to it. The story of activating and moving through the three levels of love to true love.
The human brain developed in three distinct phases. Each phase corresponds to a physical component of our brain and produces different drives which influences how we experience our mind:
- Physical brain (homeostasis) – Most inward at the top of our spine – Regulates physical processes continuously at work in our bodies like breathing. “Body”
- Emotional brain (desire) – On top of the physical brain – Responsible for emotional responses. “Heart”
- Thinking brain (reason) – On top of the emotional brain – Responsible for consciousness and reasoning. “Mind”
The more interior the brain, the more it takes precedence regarding the needs the brain is meant to address. Our brains are created by our genes and our genes primary drives is replication and so our brains are towards the ends of reproduction.
Even past the basic structure of the brain, men’s brains are wired differently from women’s brains. The male evolved to conquer challenges in nature related to food, shelter, water, clothing, and the propagation of the species. The female evolved to ensure the propagation of the family and offspring. As such, the female brain is much more in tune with the emotionality of phenomena and relationship. To her value is emotional tension that is created as this will lead to love and relationship for her ensuring her survival and the survival of her offspring. The goal is thus to create emotional tension (desire) with the female and to lead this to spontaneous sex (same night sex) and eventual relationship. Emotional tension (desire) is attraction and the precursor to true love.
Women are attracted to men with social status because they are programmed to believe that these men give them the sort of feelings that they want. Feelings being emotional tension. Emotional tension being related to love and the creation of a family and propagation of offspring.
The hardware in women’s brains is attracted to certain archetypal male traits associated with masculinity. This masculinity can also be referred to as alpha. So the overall archetypal male that is attractive to the neurological structure of her brain is alpha. This attraction is not a choice, but automatic. In order to escalate physically with her, we are going to call upon the attraction built into her brain by demonstrating alpha traits, allowing this to build tension, and then not breaking the tension but leading this towards sex.